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Exploring a moment that does not fit the problem story

Explore one chosen event in detail, including what happened, your intentions and any meaning or connection you want to make, without forcing a positive story.

Written by Tarun Vermani, Trainee Clinical Psychologist Last reviewed

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Use with your therapist after they introduce narrative conversations. This supports trained practice and does not replace it. Use your own language; no triumph, positive meaning or interpretation is required. If no moment fits, leave this for another time. You need not retell trauma. Separating a person from a problem never removes responsibility for harm or repair. A different moment does not disprove abuse. If abuse or danger is ongoing, seek help from your therapist, GP or a specialist support service as soon as it is safe. Pause and tell your therapist if reflection becomes distressing. If someone in your life frightens, threatens or controls you, don't practise with them. Talk to your therapist first. If you are in danger, call 999. Free domestic abuse helplines, open day and night: in England, the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run by Refuge) on 0808 2000 247; in Scotland, Scotland's Domestic Abuse and Forced Marriage Helpline on 0800 027 1234; in Wales, Live Fear Free on 0808 80 10 800; in Northern Ireland, the Domestic and Sexual Abuse Helpline on 0808 802 1414. This worksheet is for feelings you can manage. If you have urges to hurt yourself, or you feel unsafe, use your safety plan if you have one and tell your therapist. If you might act on the urges, call 999 or go to A&E. To talk to someone now, call Samaritans free on 116 123.

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When to use ‘Exploring a moment that does not fit the problem story’

‘Exploring a moment that does not fit the problem story’ is an interactive narrative therapy worksheet. Consider this resource when a problem has come to dominate how a client describes themselves, and they want to explore other meanings, experiences or preferred stories.

It is designed to be used within therapy rather than as a standalone self-help tool: a therapist introduces it, works through it collaboratively, and helps make sense of what it surfaces. You can preview the full worksheet above, then assign it digitally for clients to complete between sessions on any device or download it as a print-ready PDF.

How it works

Most people work through it in around 10 minutes. It centres on one focused exercise:

  1. One event, with meanings you choose

Completed on the Formulate platform, your client's answers are saved automatically and shared straight back to you, so you can review them before the next session rather than waiting for a paper copy to come back.

The narrative therapy approach behind it

‘Exploring a moment that does not fit the problem story’ draws on narrative therapy. Narrative therapy separates the person from the problem, inviting curiosity about how a difficulty affects their life without defining who they are. Conversations explore experiences that do not fit the problem’s dominant story. The client’s own language, values and relationships inform preferred stories about their life and the directions they wish to take.

It is intended as one part of a wider course of therapy rather than as advice or a diagnosis. The therapist can help decide how it fits the work and discuss what emerges.

Evidence & sources

This worksheet draws on narrative therapy. Key sources include:

  • White, M., & Epston, D. (1990). Narrative Means to Therapeutic Ends. W. W. Norton & Company.
  • White, M. (2007). Maps of Narrative Practice. W. W. Norton & Company.

For use alongside professional support

Formulate provides educational CBT resources for use with a qualified therapist. They are not a substitute for professional assessment, diagnosis, or crisis care.

If you need urgent help now:

  • Emergency services: 999 — if you or someone else is in immediate danger
  • NHS 111 (NHS 24 in Scotland): 111 — choose the mental health option for urgent help, in England, Scotland and Wales (in Wales, press 2)
  • Lifeline: 0808 808 8000 — for urgent help in Northern Ireland, free, day or night
  • Samaritans: 116 123 — free, day or night, 365 days a year
  • Shout: 85258 — text SHOUT, free, day or night
  • SANEline: 0300 304 7000 — 4pm–10pm, every day

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